Confessional
May 10th, 2016 at 12:15:22 PM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
Beautifully said and very important point. If we haven't experienced this amazing grace of forgiveness from others, and unfortunately many of us have not, we can also learn and understand forgiveness through Jesus Christ. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
May 10th, 2016 at 12:50:58 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
Nobody has! That's the whole point of dreaming up the fantasy that Jesus forgives you for everything. Nobody on earth will really forgive you for the stupid stunts you pull, but Jesus will. Unconfirmable, unrealistic pie in the sky nonsense. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
May 10th, 2016 at 1:14:43 PM permalink | |
Ayecarumba Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 89 Posts: 1744 | I disagree. Check out the experiences of John Newton and William Wilberforce in 2006's Amazing Grace. Wilberforce worked for decades without success to abolish slavery. Newton was a former slave ship captain. |
May 10th, 2016 at 1:33:46 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
You take their word for it, doesn't mean it happened. I can only go with what I've seen in my own life. I've never seen one person really forgive another. Oh, they pretend they do, they may even think they have. But the transgression is always there, right under the surface, waiting to pop up. Sometimes decades later. They delude themselves into thinking they've forgiven and forgotten. Easy to do, too easy in a lot of cases. This is how it works. You have to live or work with a person, or they're a neighbor or in your family. In order to deal with them you talk yourself into thinking you forgive them, when all you've really done is apply a bandage to the wound. It never really heals. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
May 10th, 2016 at 4:10:34 PM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
Great movie! There is a reason that song is so powerful. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
May 10th, 2016 at 4:16:26 PM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
Makes sense, I can't discount your personal experience or in this case lack of it. As someone already said the notion of true forgiveness is a freaking mystery until we receive it.
Take a look at a crucifix.
Again this is the main point we seem to be discussing. Forgiveness does not equal forgetfulness. Forgiveness allows the wrong that was done to you and the one who committed it to cease having power over you. You still remember and most likely have learned from the whole experience. You can choose whether or not you would like to allow that person to rebuild the trust they lost. Maybe think of it as a scar left over from surgery. Forgiveness is the surgery and afterwards you have healed, but what remains is a nasty scar that will never go away and maybe some limited range of motion. Forgiveness heals and closes an open wound, but it can't magically make whatever happened disappear. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
May 10th, 2016 at 5:27:18 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
For it to work, it has to. You can't have one without the other. My best friend from HS married a truly stupid, insufferable 19 yr old girl in 1976. I never forgave him. The few times I've seen him since then, she treats him, in front of other people, like he's dog crap on the bottom of her shoe. I don't see him because I know I would eventually be arrested for knocking her on her fat ass. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
May 10th, 2016 at 5:39:16 PM permalink | |
petroglyph Member since: Aug 3, 2014 Threads: 25 Posts: 6227 | Have you ever noticed how often the first thing a guy has to get rid of after he gets married, is all his old friends? There is a reason for that. Married women usually detest single friends of their spouse. The last official act of any government is to loot the treasury. GW |
May 10th, 2016 at 7:20:41 PM permalink | |
Fleastiff Member since: Oct 27, 2012 Threads: 62 Posts: 7831 | Thats part of the transition from single to married, life becomes couples only...women don't like single women around their husband at all. Most macho types are proud of their 'I seldom forgive and I never forget' attitude: its part of the compete, win, be first off the elevator, never apologize (its a sign of weakness), never let an opponent finish their sentence, etc. etc. |
May 10th, 2016 at 7:45:23 PM permalink | |
Wizard Administrator Member since: Oct 23, 2012 Threads: 239 Posts: 6095 | Sorry to change the topic, but I have a question for FrG. Suppose an adult in the confessional says he stole a candy bar as a kid from a store that is still there. Would you? A. Give him x Hail Marys and an Act of Contrition? B. A + mail the store an anonymous money order for the cost of the candy in today's dollars? C. B, except not anonymous but with with a personal note of apology. D. Other (explain) Thank you. Knowledge is Good -- Emil Faber |