Random Thought of the Day

Quote: Mission146

Maybe she just got tired of the drive, or the company. Meaning the other guests, of course.

Who got tired of what drive, who is 'she'. What are you talking about.

Quote: Evenbob

Who got tired of what drive, who is 'she'. What are you talking about.

Your wife, from her house to yours. You have stated, in probably almost every post where it could ever possibly be borderline relevant, or even tangential, that the two of you live separately.

Quote: Mission146

Your wife, from her house to yours. You have stated, in probably almost every post where it could ever possibly be borderline relevant, or even tangential, that the two of you live separately.

We live separately now no, we have not always lived separately. Only the last 15 years or so. You keep forgetting I'm probably 35 or 40 years older than you are. I had a whole life before you were born.

I can see sleeping separately, but being married and living separately has to be one of the lamest plays a person can make.

Marriage = partnership; at least with most people.

What, are you too cheap, or too religious, to divorce her?

mmmmmm

Quote: missedhervee

I can see sleeping separately, but being married and living separately has to be one of the lamest plays

My insurance agent tells me that being married living separately is extremely popular gets more popular all the time.

"There is a third choice: living apart together. Not only is it surprisingly common, but living apart together is increasingly seen as a new and better way for modern couples to live. Surveys have previously suggested that around 10% of adults in Western Europe, the US, Canada, New Zealand and Australia live apart together. Living apart together gives people all the advantages of autonomy – doing what you want in your own space, maintaining preexisting local arrangements and friendships – as well as the pleasures of intimacy with a partner."

There are scores of articles on the subject and it turns out it's actually a trend. More and more couples are doing it. It's odd that you didn't know that.

Quote: missedhervee

I can see sleeping separately, but being married and living separately has to be one of the lamest plays a person can make.

Do you think the normal convention of marriage works any better than anything else, with such a high divorce rate?

Quote: rxwine

Do you think the normal convention of marriage works any better than anything else, with such a high divorce rate?

Yes, I do.

The weak link is the people, not the institution.

People get divorced too easily, and this wreaks havoc socially and financially.

Just power through the rough patches, get counselling, and try to make it stick.

Life isn't always easy, and kids will benefit when raised by their mother and father under the same roof.

Sad to see folks divorce and then shack up with someone they barely know: yeah, like that's really good for the kids.

Quote: rxwine

Do you think the normal convention of marriage works any better than anything else, with such a high divorce rate?

I know this, quality of life is much better living separately. Just like your quality of life goes up when you get separate bedrooms in the same house. I really believe living together and sleeping in the same bedroom is a form of sadomasochism. It robs you of so many things. Who says I have to be constantly accommodating to someone else when I don't have to if I don't want to. It's a sign of maturity when you can have a quality monogamous relationship with someone and live in separate places. So many married people are painful to be around, imagine what it's like in their home on a daily basis. The best way to never get tired of someone is do not live with them and inexperience them 7 days a week. Far more women like this kind of relationship than men. Because many men are big babies, they want someone to clean their house do their laundry cook their meals AND have sex with them. Most of that goes away when you live on your own.

Quote: missedhervee

Just power through the rough patches, get counselling, and try to make it stick.

Grit your teeth and endure it, get professional help if you need to, and try to make it work. Naw, that's for suckers. As the divorce rate shows..