How do you want to die...?
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June 25th, 2020 at 11:37:42 AM permalink | |
rxwine Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 189 Posts: 18762 | Injection, madness, suicide, applause, and encore. Or maybe just choke on a cough drop. You believe in an invisible god, and dismiss people who say they are trans? Really? |
June 25th, 2020 at 1:05:14 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
It's anything you want it to be, it's eternal. The past is gone and all we can do is invent the future. This moment in time is eternity. It's the constant 'right now', it's what the Eastern sages strive to live in. Be Her Now, as Baba Ram Das used to say. Because we seldom are, we're in the past or inventing the future. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
June 26th, 2020 at 7:48:25 AM permalink | |
DJTeddyBear Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 5 Posts: 265 | This thread has brought up a lot of feelings and memories from my childhood and my dad. Dad died in 1977. I was 17. He was 49. I'm now 61. Being a naive kid, I assumed it was normal for old people to spend a few days in the hospital a few times each year. It never occurred to me that he was the only one regularly going to the hotel hospital. As such, I didn't think he was any different than any of the other neighborhood dads, or my uncles, etc. Even now looking back, I believe I grew up in a relatively normal suburban middle class lifestyle. He didn't let his illness hold him back. It was only after he died that I learned that 13 years prior, the doctor told my mom that he had about 6 months to go. As was customary in the sixties, she was given the option of letting him know or not. She chose to withhold that info, although he did find out about 7 years later. So now, although the question posed by this thread doesn't really address these options, I'm unsure if I would have wanted to be told if I were him. If you know you're sick, with 6 months to live, how much do you change your lifestyle? How long after the 6 months pass do you reevaluate things? How long after that do you reevaluate things again? How much does all that screw with your head? Would you reevaluate your lifestyle if you suddenly learned that 7 years ago the doctor gave you 6 months? You've suddenly learned that you beat the odds. Now what? Then there's my mom. She passed away a couple years ago, at 86. In her early 70's she suffered a stroke leaving her paralized on one side. It was bad enough that she needed to go to a nursing home. While she never gave me any reason to believe that she wanted 'out', she did once mention that she understands why some people would seek the assistance of Dr Kevorkian. That was an interesting conversation. Then there’s my thoughts of PaiGowDan. I’m sure most of you knew him, but we were good friends, spending a lot of time together whenever I was in town. One day three years ago, he simply didn’t wake up. He was my age. The first, and still only one of my contemporaries to go. If that doesn’t get your attention.... Anyway, while I know none of this answers the original question, I hope I've provided some food for thought. Ignorance is bliss and knowledge is power. But having only some facts can get you into trouble! |
June 26th, 2020 at 9:18:05 AM permalink | |
terapined Member since: Aug 6, 2014 Threads: 73 Posts: 11799 | I live in a similar time frame to you. I'm also 61. I also lost my Father in the late 70's. He was a manic depressive. Life was good but small issues turned into major issues in his head and he no longer wanted to live. That enlightened me to dealing with my own struggles with depression. I also met Paigow Dan in Vegas. Also got to meet his wife. Scary how one day you dont wake up. I think he had some health issues anyway. I want to live for many more years but I want live in a healthy body where I can still bike. I'm thrilled I made it to the RV retirement life pretty healthy. Sometimes we live no particular way but our own - Grateful Dead "Eyes of the World" |
June 26th, 2020 at 9:52:48 AM permalink | |
rxwine Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 189 Posts: 18762 | Same cancer as Alex Trebak. You believe in an invisible god, and dismiss people who say they are trans? Really? |
June 27th, 2020 at 8:26:03 PM permalink | |
petroglyph Member since: Aug 3, 2014 Threads: 25 Posts: 6227 | It's easier to accept the fact you are dying then it is waiting for a diagnosis. The last official act of any government is to loot the treasury. GW |
June 28th, 2020 at 5:29:55 AM permalink | |
Aussie Member since: May 10, 2016 Threads: 2 Posts: 458 |
Agree. Would not want anything drawn out where you know it is coming. I mean, of course you know it’s coming at some point but a terminal diagnosis would really put it into focus. So yeah, fast and painless. And preferably not at an age where the quality of life is gone. Let me go at 80 not 95. |
June 28th, 2020 at 11:33:34 AM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
Looking at the last 10 years of my father in laws life, from 85 to 95, it was pathetic. He went from a hunter and guide in MT, owning several properties, to being a victim of the doctors who kept him barely alive and took every penny he had. All the inheritance his kids might have gotten went to doctors and a $7000 a month care facility. In the end he was in a wheelchair, head on his chest, and could only whisper answers to questions. Awful. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
June 28th, 2020 at 12:18:31 PM permalink | |
rxwine Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 189 Posts: 18762 |
Plenty of people do that. Try to extend their life to the point they're helpless and potentially at the mercy of anyone responsible for them. Sometimes they're well taken care, other times they don't get so lucky. You believe in an invisible god, and dismiss people who say they are trans? Really? |
June 28th, 2020 at 12:25:40 PM permalink | |
SOOPOO Member since: Feb 19, 2014 Threads: 22 Posts: 4177 |
Ahhhh... The doctors sought him out, gave him treatment options against his will to keep him alive..... Somehow he was teleported to that $7,000 a month care facility.... couldn't have gone there on purpose? Of course not! There were tons of papers to fill out to get into the $7,000 a month place, trust me, as when someone APPLIES to get into one, their finances are checked first. So your F in Law made a conscious decision to go there.... NO ONE FORCED him! "Took" every penny he had? That's like saying I went to a car dealer, bought a car for $50k, and they 'took' my $50k! So what do you propose, Bob? I propose letting him stay at home for as long as he and his loved ones want, but I also propose there being a $7,000 a month place that he can choose to go into if he wants. Sounds like what I propose is what happened. As far as quality of life past 80..... I do agree with you.... I know many people who have a quality of life I would not want, but, happily, I also know quite a few that are happy octo and nonogenarians. |