Attending religious rituals
February 12th, 2015 at 4:33:44 PM permalink | |
Nareed Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 346 Posts: 12545 |
I think it's more a sense of obligation. If it were love, they wouldn't even ask me to come.
There's nothing like that in the world. I can't think of something they not only don't like but which has also hurt them.
Oh, not at all. I'd be fine with that. Just send a gift, right? No. In fact we have an arrangement of not giving each other gifts. Donald Trump is a one-term LOSER |
February 12th, 2015 at 5:36:42 PM permalink | |
Nareed Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 346 Posts: 12545 |
No. There is a good reason for casinos. Donald Trump is a one-term LOSER |
February 12th, 2015 at 6:55:14 PM permalink | |
DJTeddyBear Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 5 Posts: 265 |
I've read thru this several times, and the key words keep popping up: Outdated ritual, nephew, include me. The math keeps coming up to the same conclusion: They are asking you to be a participant in a Briss (Jewish circumcision ceremony), perhaps even to hold the child during the actual cutting. If that's it, then I'm on your side. I can't think of any other ritual that anyone would find so objectionable to participating in. So what's the story? You wrote that yesterday. What was the ritual, what were you being asked to do, and what did you end up doing? Ignorance is bliss and knowledge is power. But having only some facts can get you into trouble! |
February 12th, 2015 at 8:34:49 PM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
As we've mentioned love sometimes requires of us to do things we normally wouldn't like to do.
Why don't you ask them if religion hurts them so much or if they don't like it? I think you may find that they find value an happiness from it.
Looks like you've painted yourself in a corner again. If you can be cordial and kind, which I know you can, maybe you should go and make the best of it. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
February 13th, 2015 at 6:16:07 AM permalink | |
Nareed Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 346 Posts: 12545 |
And from your viewpoint I should make sacrifices, too. Well, I don't. I have integrity, and it cannot be sold, traded, given away or sacrificed. I can attend the ritual. I can congratulate my nephew and his parents. But I won't offer a prayer to a non-existent god for any reason, at any time. Maybe you can relate to this. Suppose I invited you to my wedding (I wish!) and I asked you to say the following prayer "God, please stay far away from us." Would you say it, out loud, out of love for a friend? Would a friend who loves you ask this of you?
Believe it or not, I know my own family. My brother is as atheist as I am, just less militant. But he goes through the motions of religion because of family pressures (that's a long story and is not mine to tell). Donald Trump is a one-term LOSER |
February 13th, 2015 at 7:26:46 AM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 | Well said and I agree with your points. Have as good a time as you can and I'm sure we all await your report. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
February 13th, 2015 at 8:31:15 AM permalink | |
Nareed Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 346 Posts: 12545 |
I think this may be a first ;)
It was yesterday. There was a little box with two pieces of chocolate at every guest's place on the tables. Two places at my table were empty. I thought, after breakfast were done, I'd ask if anyone wanted them. If no one else did, I'd take them to give to my coworkers at the office. Alas, the Rabbi just took them without asking. The best thing of having the event on a workday, is that one can leave right after breakfast and no one minds. So I didn't have to endure two hours of aural torture before it was "ok" for me to leave. The coffee was decent. The worst thing of having the event on a workday, is that they want to keep the party going until the weekend. So today there is another outdated ritual in the evening, but fortunately I'll be stuck at work. Then there's a big meal at my mom's tomorrow. Wow! That actually reads a lot better than it felt. Donald Trump is a one-term LOSER |
February 13th, 2015 at 2:11:44 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
I have a Jewish friend who got divorced 20 years ago when he was in his 50's. He tried going to a Christian church for awhile, just to meet women I think. He found it confusing, not like his own religion. I don't remember the details, but he was uncomfortable with all the music and singing. They don't do that in his Jewish church. And it goes on and on, he said it feels like a party and nobody is very serious. The few times I've been to my wife's church in the last few years, it's more like a rock concert. They have a huge stage, a hundred spotlights overhead, thousands of dollars in sound equipment. Every Sunday they put on a show, and people clap and sing along and everybody has a rolicking time. I always tell my wife Jesus would be appalled if he was really alive. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
February 13th, 2015 at 9:15:47 PM permalink | |
Fleastiff Member since: Oct 27, 2012 Threads: 62 Posts: 7831 |
Sometimes its just the depressing and contradictory rituals that I find annoying. At any Celebration of Life in the yachting community, the central table is "reserved for the crew" but the reason the Celebration of Life is being held is that its obvious the boat went down and the crew died at sea. Its really a funeral at which the word death is not mentioned. |