So there's this stripper.. [UPDATE]

I've already posted on the WoV site, but figured I would repost here. No Adult Discussions subforum, so I guess this is the best place...


For those that don't know, here's a synopsis:

A couple weeks ago, I went to the strip club. A stripper, I got a dance with, gave me her number, giving me seemingly clear signs she might want to date me for real. We exchanged texts two days later arranging a date, but without details. I called twice with no response.. it didn't happen, and so I texted her the night we were supposed to go out, she said, "sry. we can reschedule"


So, there really isn't any update. But I wanted to switch gears a little bit, since the last thread had more of a feel of my problems with meeting women, and I was hoping to extend that. Last Thursday, Oct. 18, I went back to a different strip club with a friend I work with. It was okay, except that, since I wasn't alone I think I was a little more "douche-baggery" and the girls weren't into it.. I regret acting the way I did, and I wanted to apologize to this one particular girl that was on stage.....

He told me about one of the girls that he had been seeing. She also gave him her number... they went into the back and he continued to get SEVERAL songs...I felt a little sorry for him, because I think he might've thought there was more to it, when there wasn't.

I'm convinced now that MY stripper "friend" just wants me to come in to buy more dances...

But to switch gears a little bit.... I went to the bar yesterday (Wed, Oct 24). This bar all my coworkers go to, but this particular week, I knew a bunch were going to the casino, so I expected to be alone... But the sexiest girl I work with walked up behind me saying: "Oh, I thought I was gonna be the only here"... we proceeded to chat for awhile, getting a little bit of intimate time so to speak. For the last few weeks I've gotten a slight feeling she might be interested, although it might all be in my head...... Later in the night, I was playing a game of pool, and she's right there, seemingly MILLIMETERS away from dancing with me...SEEMINGLY all I needed to do was start shaking it, and I coulda grinded on her...

Now, even if I could get with her, I'm not sure if I would want to, since she has two kids--one with a fellow co-worker--and we really don't have anything in common.

So, later that night, there's this OTHER girl... a bit older.. a customer that has recently started coming to the bar, also extremely cute. We play a game of pool, and while I'm taking a shot, she smacks my ass.... she did this at least twice, with some other flirtatious nudges..... the thing is, if I remember correctly, she's married with two kids, which she told me herself, so I was totally confused, as I was reading signs of: "I want your d**k" ... I guess any time a girl does something like that to me, I would read it as a sign of "I want your d**k".. but maybe I'm wrong..




The truth is, anything I try to do what I know I'm "supposed" to do, and flirt and talk talk with girl, I get totally shut down, which is obviously discouraging. This leads me to play it safe and just not make much of an effort at all, that way I can't get turned down. So, I can not talk to girls much, and feel like MAYBE I could get a girl, or try to talk to a few and get rejected and feel like shit... I don't really know what to think at this point in my life...

At bars and strip clubs you're probably going to meet women who only want money or sex. It was smart of you to pass on anyone from work, though--that gets too complicated.

If you're looking for someone to talk to and have a real relationship with, you're hanging out in the wrong places. I'd make an exception for a sports bar. We belong to a club that gathers at one to watch our favorite football team and the bar is more like a restaurant. It's a fun social activity where you start out with SOMETHING in common with the people there besides just drinking. The club also has outside activities like chili cookoffs and parties in the off-season and gatherings at other local minor league sporting events.

This subject again?
I would say this in a nice way,
2/10 would not bang.
If you want a girlfriend meet a nice girl with potential for a future.
If you want sex with a pro, hire a call girl. But
Don't try to turn a whore into housewife.